Samhain (Halloween as the living call it!) is creeping in. It’s time to celebrate with something a little spookier than usual. And of course, like everything else you’ll find on here, it’s related to the wonderful world of business.
I figured, being a fan of all things horror, that the four Dan Bradbury Ltd. coaches (i.e. the people who spend all day every day asking business owners questions) may have been a little scared of answering questions themselves. So I asked them one.
In the end, it wasn’t the question they were scared of (turns out coaches love being coached. Considering I spend 80% of my working time with coaches, I should have known that!) but that doesn’t mean they weren’t scared of anything.
I asked them…
“What’s the scariest thing that can happen to a coach?”
Each one took the question very differently. Here’s what they said.
The APCTC Head of Coaching’s answer is as congruent with the overarching brand message as ever:
“There not being a good gym locally? Only joking. My real fear as a coach isolation, and not having any professional support. This could take the form of a peer group, a mentor or even a coach to support me. I’m scared of being by myself, because I know that, when I go it alone, my results drop through the floor.”
Richard had some varied insight on the matter…
“The horror stories from coaching are when the client has unrealistic expectations of themselves or their business and you need to deconstruct that thinking without destroying them and, more importantly, their confidence.
The other horror is the “what do you think” or “what should I do” questions from a client – especially when they are in trouble and just want someone to say that it is “all going to be okay” and “I will take all your troubles away”. Very dangerous territory. I have the odd sleepless night about those questions.
When a client makes contact (not for a scheduled call) because they feel or fear disaster has struck, these are often the easiest situations to deal with. They have usually lost all perspective and the issue is never as bad as they think. As a dispassionate observer, you can normally help them break what they see as a huge issue into more manageable parts, and help them come up with a plan to resolve their issues.
The horror of a huge hairy spider can be dealt with in a number of ways. Get someone else, who is not scared of spiders, to remove it for you. Get slightly brave and do that thing with the glass and a piece of paper. Smash the heck out of it with a large shoe! The nightmare can be dealt with really easily and you just need clarity about the problem and decide which option best fits your expertise and values.”
Not one to miss the opportunity to spread some information, Alex had a very practical (and, true-to-form, implementable) response to the question:
- Your numbers
- How you spend your time
- How your employees spend their time
- What assumptions/ beliefs are keeping you where you are and narrowing your focus
- How the market could change”
So, there you have it. Coaches are scared of difficult and unreasonable clients, unrealistic expectations, not having support (i.e. a coach themselves) and the unknown. And spiders.
A mixed bag, but perhaps not all that unfamiliar to those reading this.
Fear is a big thing. It’s most frequently identified as a hindrance… but it can also be a helper. Being upfront about what scares you (and what literally goes bump in the night!) can help you guard against it. Even if it is just with a really big shoe.
Now, ask yourself:
“What am I afraid of?”